Ayane
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So during the holidays I don't get to see my boyfriend too much. His family has this very close knit family tradition what not that, "I'm not allowed to see or meet them until my boyfriend and I are married."
Which is troubling. My family doesn't celebrate much at all. Meaning no big thanksgiving dinner or Christmas gathering. Just a kind of in and out sort of deal. So I was hoping I would have a shot at seeing my boyfriend, during these times, EVEN just for a little bit, to fill these empty gaps.
However his entire holiday is spent with his family and after I did not see his on thanksgiving, I pulled him aside and he has told me I'm not apart of that schedule because,
"Until we are married, your priority is nothing."
My boyfriend is a big family guy, but I know for a fact that his family is SUPER controlling. I again pulled him aside and explained my situation and he said, "Next year, I could come open my present and leave."
Should I settle for that? I mean the way he said, "Until we are married, your priority is nothing." I've felt bothered however after the holidays he still consistently comes over now and hangs out so now I'm just trying to come up with a solution to the mess without causing chaos.
I was thinking about being nontraditional and having Christmas maybe the next day he doesn't have work?
Ugh, I guess I'm a bit of a hopeless romantic when I want my snuggling by the fire. Decorate with Christmas stuff, or something.
Any advice? [I know there's people out there who don't even see your significant other, any words of the wise for a young one?]
Which is troubling. My family doesn't celebrate much at all. Meaning no big thanksgiving dinner or Christmas gathering. Just a kind of in and out sort of deal. So I was hoping I would have a shot at seeing my boyfriend, during these times, EVEN just for a little bit, to fill these empty gaps.
However his entire holiday is spent with his family and after I did not see his on thanksgiving, I pulled him aside and he has told me I'm not apart of that schedule because,
"Until we are married, your priority is nothing."
My boyfriend is a big family guy, but I know for a fact that his family is SUPER controlling. I again pulled him aside and explained my situation and he said, "Next year, I could come open my present and leave."
Should I settle for that? I mean the way he said, "Until we are married, your priority is nothing." I've felt bothered however after the holidays he still consistently comes over now and hangs out so now I'm just trying to come up with a solution to the mess without causing chaos.
I was thinking about being nontraditional and having Christmas maybe the next day he doesn't have work?
Ugh, I guess I'm a bit of a hopeless romantic when I want my snuggling by the fire. Decorate with Christmas stuff, or something.
Any advice? [I know there's people out there who don't even see your significant other, any words of the wise for a young one?]