Ayane
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My boyfriends friend has ADHD. He is constantly rude to people around him and they are telling me its okay because it is normal. He came over my house last night and started spitting on his girlfriend in front of me and insulting her. She told me it was normal and paid no heed to it.
I have never come across an ADHD person before so I was surprised and irked by the experience. Anyhow he had absolutely no respect and I didn't actually know he had ADHD until I snapped at him. (My boyfriend knew but never told me.)
I snapped at him because while eating he kept saying that people with ADHD are retarded. I argued that's not the correct term anymore as its been recently in medical terms changed to intellectually disabled. That Retard is rude to say and it is hurtful. Even I felt offended.
He got in my face and told me he could call retards whatever he wanted, because thats what they are and then he spit on my face.
I had a bad reaction and hit him in retalation. Slapping him across the face.
He exploded into anger and walked out saying he was going to go get hit by cars because of me. (He did leave which he was gone for 2 hours before returning. We wanted to call the police but his GF said no.)
After My boyfriend and his friends GF said I reacted wrongly and told me I was at fault. Because I could not be sentimental to the fact that he has ADHD and to him retard is just what he is.(which again I didn't know he had ADHD)
They want me to apologize to him but I feel even if he feels that's the term for him he shouldn't be describing it as a whole. I'm still shaken by the whole thing because I don't understand how to approach the subject.
I know I should apologize for hitting X person but I still feel like in my gut his behavior is out of control. But if its normal - then how do I go about treating it as such so I don't become frustrated from it?
I have never come across an ADHD person before so I was surprised and irked by the experience. Anyhow he had absolutely no respect and I didn't actually know he had ADHD until I snapped at him. (My boyfriend knew but never told me.)
I snapped at him because while eating he kept saying that people with ADHD are retarded. I argued that's not the correct term anymore as its been recently in medical terms changed to intellectually disabled. That Retard is rude to say and it is hurtful. Even I felt offended.
He got in my face and told me he could call retards whatever he wanted, because thats what they are and then he spit on my face.
I had a bad reaction and hit him in retalation. Slapping him across the face.
He exploded into anger and walked out saying he was going to go get hit by cars because of me. (He did leave which he was gone for 2 hours before returning. We wanted to call the police but his GF said no.)
After My boyfriend and his friends GF said I reacted wrongly and told me I was at fault. Because I could not be sentimental to the fact that he has ADHD and to him retard is just what he is.(which again I didn't know he had ADHD)
They want me to apologize to him but I feel even if he feels that's the term for him he shouldn't be describing it as a whole. I'm still shaken by the whole thing because I don't understand how to approach the subject.
I know I should apologize for hitting X person but I still feel like in my gut his behavior is out of control. But if its normal - then how do I go about treating it as such so I don't become frustrated from it?