Major boy dilemma!

[Danielle]

i am SO confused.

I really like this guy in my year, he is only in one class with me and sits infront of me.

I finally got his msn address and have occasionally talked to him on msn. We talk for hours and stuff. And i said that he was different online and he said that he agreed because the class we have together drains him and makes him so bored.

There is our school ball coming up and his friend is in the same class and i walked in and he was like "(name of guy) wants to ask you something" and he asked me if i was going to the ball and then that was it i said yes and there as nothing much more to that conversation. But at the beginning of last year him and his friends were talking really loud and they didn't know that i could hear them and they were saying that they would 'fake' ask me out and stuff and that really hurt me. But the thing is that was his other friends and i don't know if he had anythin to do with it. Because we were talking and he almost seems afraid of what his friends think of him because he was different and he acts different around them.

So my friend likes him and they were talking and flirting and i was actually trying to get them together but then he told me he really didn't like her he liked someone else and he wouldn't tell me who. A few of my friends know who he likes but for some reason wouldn't tell me, and they said they were 'surprised' by who it was.

Also the other day i was tagging behind my friends reading a letter and he ran up behind me and we walked together down to our cars. But i'm not really sure what is going on because he is quite shy and if i said something about liking him then he shuts you off( my friend did that and hasn't been the same since she told him that she liked him) and then his friends would start talking and making fun of me and stuff, and i really don't want that.

So it is a major dilemma and i have liked him for a while now and i catch him looking at me and then he catches me looking at him but i'm getting mixed messages.

Sorry for this very long post but i needed to tell somebody because i can't talk to my friends about it because one of my friends likes him still and i couldn't do that to her.

I am really confused can anyone help me of give ma advice??

 

[SaarahBabe]

if he said he would pretend too ask you then he's not worth the trouble to be honest.
and mabie he dose like you but he's shy like you said..
your best just asking him on his own mabie over msn but makeing sure hes on his own. when lads are togever they can become nobs!.

 

[Danielle]

Thanks for your reply.

 

[sunbeam]

girl fren...... im going thru nearly the xact sam thing....... and its confusing me soooo much rit now.......... best of luck 2 u.....

 

[Depp]

Well you posted that a while ago so I'm not sure if it's still a problem or not but I'll reply anyway.

I agree with SaarahBabe, when guys are all together they can act a lot different to fit in. So then you should think about it, say he did like you and you two ended up dating. Is he going to ask you to keep this a secret so that his friends don't know about it? This has happened to me twice. No matter what they say, there is no good to come from it and it is not worth it and you will probably end up getting hurt.
So if you do decide to talk to him about this, make sure he isn't going to keep your relationship a secret. If he is going to keep it a secret then that shows he doesn't care about you as much as you deserve, and you should be with someone better than that.

I hope this helps, hopefully it's not too late =)

 

[Danielle]

Thnks guys....well the problem still sticks there, but i am sure he is not the type of person to keep it a secret and my school is sooooo small that like everyone knows everything.

So still not sure i will just wait and see what happens i supose...

 

[ilovehaterz]

Okay, I assume you're in high school..and if he can't come out and say he likes you because of what his "friends" will say, then he's stuck in middle school with his puppy love phase. Honestly girl, don't waste your time. Find someone that will actually take the time to notice you, and won't be embarrassed by you.
-->Also, maybe once you start just giving him the cold shoulder..he may come out and say he likes you, not caring what people think.....who knows.