katews
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I have a friend who is dealing with chronic pain from a number of medical issues. She is not home-bound or bed-bound yet, but I have an awful feeling that it will be happening within a year or two. Problem is that I don't really know what to say. I realize that sometimes just "being there" is all that's needed, but it's so hard to want to help and not have a clue what to do or say.
Okay, example... I feel guilty when I tell her about something I did or a trip I took because she'll never be able to do anything remotely like the things I do. I feel guilty when I talk about the future because she won't really have much of a future. Uh... I can see I have a problem with guilt but... is it better to keep talking about things like that or think of less "hurtful" topics that tend to remind her of her dire situation? Would you edit things you say or just hope nothing causes pain that could have been avoided?
Okay, example... I feel guilty when I tell her about something I did or a trip I took because she'll never be able to do anything remotely like the things I do. I feel guilty when I talk about the future because she won't really have much of a future. Uh... I can see I have a problem with guilt but... is it better to keep talking about things like that or think of less "hurtful" topics that tend to remind her of her dire situation? Would you edit things you say or just hope nothing causes pain that could have been avoided?