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Unrealistic Expectations

Zynni

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I think unrealistic expectations are one of the biggest things that cause relationships to fail. There is no storybook romance that will last forever, at least not without some effort. Once the honeymoon phase is over and real life sets in, problems, bills, etc. that's when the true test begins.

We can show our best side in the beginning, as can the other person, but nobody can do it forever.
 
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Romantic comedies and novels do give girls an unrealistic idea of what love is about. That's why it is good to have time apart and to take things slowly, so you can see what the relationship is really like. I remember an ex wanted me to move in with straightaway and I said 'no' because he was the one who was so idealistic.

Ironically it was he was unrealistic and I always tried to make the relationship as down to earth as possible, but no one can look glamorous 24/7 and people do get moody, because that's human.

The best test of a relationship is a weekend away, because when you spend time with someone with no escape you see the real picture.
 
That makes sense. It can be difficult when both people have completely different ideals and expectations.

Good advice. Traveling or staying with someone is a really good way to get to know him or her.

When we can see someone at their worst, and they see us at ours, that's when we know if it's real.
 
The dating phase is always superficial with each person trying to put his/her best foot forward. I think it is wise for one to know in marriage things will be a bit different. The sweet guy will not always go out of his way to make you happy like he did while your were courting. Reality is that each has to make some compromises to make the marriage a success. Otherwise, issues will set in and a break up might ensue :sick::cry:
 
Oh yeah, but again some people make no effort at all to hide who they really are and for that we should be grateful! Specially us,: the girls. I lost my time on a lot idiots who pretended to be something they weren't, and once I realized that it was too late: I had invested quite a bit time on the relationship. I was very young back then, so it was easy to trick me.

I'm actually glad I didn't idealize my fiancee. He showed himself the way he was since the very beginning, and for that I am kinda grateful, but there are many things I wish he hadn't said.
 
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Well, I'm glad you found out sooner than later, Seffiata. I'm sure it's still painful, but you will be better off in the long run. He obviously wasn't the right guy for you. You'll find the right one, probably when you least expect it.
 
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